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July 10, 2003
Hello all, sorry it has been so long since I update you, but it seems that we were in just the waiting mode. After the train wreck of a court date on June 5th. We met with our SW supervisor. That helped tremendously as the next day they had a staffing meeting with everyone to go over the case and help guide our SW in the direction he needed to go, so it defintly got the ball rolling in the right direction. Let me take you back to the visit on June 23rd I went to drop M off and I was telling the visit sup. that we were going on vacation and that we would not be at the visit on June 30 her comment was fine but she may get him back at court on June 26. I said you are right she may. I went to hand M to his biomom and he took one look at her and started screaming and grasping onto my shirt not letting go. I had to pry his little fingers off me. Both ladies were like what is going on he has never been like this and now this is twice. Apparently he had cried the week before but they didn't mention it to me. I felt like they were insinuating that I somehow told him to cry, so I just said he is getting at that age and left. My heart was breaking. So we were off to court on June 26 again wondering if M would be retiurned to her. Well, she did not show up due to transportation issues is what she said. So again we were postponed until July 10. So we hoped in the car and headed for beautiful San Diego for our vacation.
Jumping forward to this week.
I took M for his regualr visit On Monday July 7, and this is a reminder he had not seen her the week prior. I don't get out of the car until 9:00 because I hate to wait especailly with the two little ones. I saw biomom coming out the door and assumed she was going to come and get him out of the car. I got out of the car not paying any attention to her and by the time I got to the other side of the van I realized she was walking away form building. I turned and it looked like she had been crying. She waved at me and I waved back and she was gone. I got M out and wondered what the heck was going on. Visit sup came out and said there would be no visit. Apparently bio mom had a black eye and stitches and decided not to see him. Sup. said there was some other things going on but could not elaborate. Then SW came out and he said some stuff and said we have enough to get the 6 more months in our care, but agian could not tell me info he had on her.
Court July 10 D- DAY
We had no idea what to expect from the judge. We went in and waited there was none of the usual evidendce put out. They just asked for conitued services for Miguel and set a new court date for Oct 16th. DH and I looked at eachother and thought well we have him until then at least. We got up to walk out and M's attorney asked to speak with us. We walked into the foyer to wait for her. In the meantime biomom came out and asked to talk to us. She immediatley started to cry and say she did not know if she could do this financialy. She wanted to make sure that we were the ones to adopt him and that we would take good care of him and that we would not let him forget her. DH is trying to comfort her and telling her to worry about taking care of herself and we would take very good care of M. I am standing there on the verge of tears not knowing what to think. By this time M's attorney had come out. I then said we love him like he was our own and she said I know. She then left and we were stading there very dumbfounded. M's attorney then spoke up and said wow I wouldn't be suprised if that was the last time you saw her. Apparently when she goes to her drug court every week she has to pay for her test and then test. We know that she has missed two that she could not pay for. So if she either does not show up or can not pay then she goes to jail. The attorney thought she had a substatntial amount of time to serve if she had to go to jail. By this time biomom's attorney came out and said on the record after you left the judge said that if she fails before Oct 16 to get this case immediatley back on the books to term reunification rights and then TPR. We do not know what to think. You do not want someone to fail, but at the same time we knew that she would it was just a matter of time and thankfully he was not returned to her on the 5th. We will see what the visit brings on Monday, will she be there or not. Will she wake up tommorow and think oh my gosh what did I tell them, no I want my child. I know that she loves him and I think that with him crying with her and everything else she has come to the very hard and tuff decision to let him go.Are we one step closer to M being our forever son it appears that Blaine will not loose his playmate and buddy and we will not loose our son. Just when I think that all is lost there is a pot of gold at our rainbow. All the prayers and well wishes have been answered. I am so thankful for our families and friends that have stood by in this mess that they really did not ask to be apart of. But I tell you what we have the most wonderful friends and family that have opened their hearts to these two precious little boys they are part of our family.
As for what my two munchkins are doing. They are both walking, more like running. Talking up a storm. Blaine goes around all day and asks for DADDY or BUBBY we call M Bubba. Blaine just turned one on June 26 so we have a one year old and M who was 14 months on the 5th. In August they will have been in our lives for a year and it seems like forever ago that they were infants. I can't beleive how fast they grow and change. M has a bag full of tricks that he will share for anyone who will watch.From fake burping to what does an indian say to crossing his arms. He is a riot. As for Blaine he has his own personality he loves to head butt and he defintly knows how to throw a tantrum, boy do I hope he outgrows both by the time the terrible twos hit! Thanks for joining me in our journey and I will update you when I hear anything else. We are still set to TPR on Blaine's biomom July 30.
Happy Days Ahead
Kim
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