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April 22, 2004
Hello All
I apologize for not getting back to you about the possible little girl. We went round and round about every scenerio before we went in to read the file. Then we went to read her file and half way through SW said oh my gosh it is a boy not a girl. Hmmm So we said well that makes our decision easy. We expressed our concern about the closnes in age. So we left with a weight lifted off our shoulders. We even looked at the pictures and it was really hard to tell if it was a boy or girl as the pictures were old. As I am walking in the door I hear a message that no it is really a girl Birth cert is wrong. None of the papers we had read said he/she plus name was Angel. So I can now see how the system looses children.Why do they not have a corrected Birth cert? So we still declined.We are willing to go the possible heartache route of taking a placement and losing them.
As for Isaac he is almost 7 months he finally cut a tooth and can roll anywhere he wants to go. He still refuses to eat solids, but we work on it still. The Sw made a I was in the neighborhood visit yesterday. Hmmm twice in a row actually it was an assistant. I called the SW after the other gal left to ask her what was going on with his case as court is a mere 41 days away, but who is counting. SW said that biomom called the day before, but she was out of the office and hadn't reached her when she tried to call her back. She said she was going to do the recommendation for court next week. She did say she was reccomending TPR I was like alright. Then she made a few statments that I didn't agree with. I guess she had talked to BM sometime ago and had told her that if she didn't start doing what she needed to do that it would go this way. I asked her what BM reaction was and she said she really didn't say much but thought she felt ashamed or something like that. I was talking to my friends about this and I said if someone told me I was about to loose my child I would think that statement would be enough to get her off her rear end and make some sort of effort, but she has made none besides calling the SW every once in a while. The Sw just seems to still want to give her more time, because she said well she still has a month. Hello she has had 6 1/2 months and his seen him a whole what five times left the rehab after a few days ended up back in jail and so forth has done nothing on her case plan, but oh we should really give her more time. She obvisouly has more important priorities. Sorry if I sound a little harsh, but she has had almost 7 months to prove that she can parent this child and she has done ZIP! Unlike Miguesl BM that did everything she was supposed to and came to every visit and showed geuine interst and love for him. I was glad in one sense when I got off the phone, but on the other hand I was jsut frustrted. DH was reasurring and said that it will all work out.Then I went back to thinking about the little girl and was like are we willing to go thorugh this hole mess again with another baby or toddler with the risk that they could go back to BP. It is one thing if the BP is making a true effort and has concern, but when they do nothing. Plus she was to have only 6 months by the time we go to court she will have had 8 months to prove herself. Ok I need to stop my rampage, but this system sucks. I know I have said it many times, but it really needs to be fixed. I have heard many BP complain that the system is out to get them, well this system bends over backwards to give your child back to you when it is not in the childs best interest. Ok I am stopping now.
Blaine is doing wonderful he finally realized that he can speak words and talk! He saysd thanks daddy, even if you are not dadddy and you give him something he says thanks daddy to you. He says YEAH to about everything. He will answer you and or lable stuff. He has definitly grown into a little person in the past week. He didn't want to sit for a haircut this time so just decided that it was close enough to summer and gave in and buzzed his hair now he looks like a big boy. I can't believe that he will be 2 in June. Other than that we are just plugginhg along busy as ever.
I will update you again
Kim
Blaine 22 months
Issac 6 1/2 months
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