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A New Grandchild to Love
When Your Children Adopt Children By Teri Brown
Madrid-Branch believes grandparents can do a world of good by understanding that adoption is another form of delivery. "Celebrating this form of delivery with their adult child is such a wonderful way of growing together and creating excitement as the process progresses," says Madrid-Branch. "I urge all grandparents to support their adult children during the adoption process with open, clear, loving support and communication."
The following tips will help you and your family adjust to the wonderful gift that is adoption.
- If a grandchild is coming from another country, grandparents can research the culture and history of that country and pass along information to their adult child. One example of this is to create a thoughtful book for the child on their country of origin. This book of pictures and notes is a wonderful treasure to pass along to the child upon arrival. Remember to be creative, excited and involved as it is deemed appropriate. Your adult child will appreciate the enthusiasm!
- Avoid trying to steer your adult children in any way. Support their decisions and let them know that you will love your grandchild unconditionally.
- Don't give advice when it isn't asked for. Let your adult children experience the process and don't bring up every negative story that you've seen on TV or in a movie.
- Think about the expenses and, if possible, offer to loan the money that they will be receiving from the Federal Adoption Tax Credit (over $10,000) if that is possible and/or helpful.