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Rejection
The Common Thread By Yvette Pompa
As parents, it is difficult especially within that nanosecond of rejection but we must switch gears and remind ourselves that this is not about us or our parenting ability. It's about the child, his rejection from the past and his inability to reason his current emotions in the moment.
So where do we go from here? What is the next step to understanding why and what our child is experiencing? I believe on some level, parent and child will meet and understand the emotional value of it all.I believeour child will eventually know that we, the parents, know of their pain, and that together we will conquer it.
I think back to what Robert Frost wrote in his poem, The Road Not Taken: "Two roads diverged in a yellow wood / And sorry I could not travel both."
Are we sorry that we cannot, as hard as we attempt, travel our child's road of pain? Is it then healthy for us, the parents, to tap into our own schema of rejection in order to understand what they feel? Certainly within this journey of healing, a large box of chocolates isn't going to hurt.