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Great Expectations
Managing Surrogacy Relationships
By Sharon LaMothe
The babies are born healthy and strong, and the Smiths take them home. Now Mary hardly EVER hears from them. It may be months before she even sees them, and they used to be close friends. She feels used and left behind, forgetting how she felt during the pregnancy. Regret sets in.
As for the Smiths, they are coping with two new lives! They are not getting the sleep they used to, and bills from the surrogacy and new babies are piling up. Their lives have been turned upside down, and they can barely get time alone with each other, let alone make calls to Mary.
Can you see what happened? No one really discussed expectations. The before, during and after pregnancy relationship needs were not met, and therefore, a bad taste has been left behind where the beauty of families working together to bring a much-wanted child into the world should have been.
Before anyone makes the choice of surrogacy, certain aspects need to be thoroughly thought out and discussed. Here is a short list:
- Should a family member be asked t be a surrogate?
